error n°1: Flirt with someone after discovering your ex is dating someone new.

Being constantly connected can have its advantages. However, the unexpected can occasionally happen while enjoying a night out at a bar in the city centre with your friends. Before updating your Instagram feed, ensure you are sober enough to handle what is about to unfold.

If your ex appears smiling alongside their new flame, think twice before engaging in a flirtation with the first person who crosses your path. This could result in side effects such as delirium, poor choices, and ending up washing your hands with a soap bar covered in body hair.

error n°2: Giving a second chance to something you already know is wrong for you.

Despite convincing ourselves that it is essential to give second chances, believe me: the first impression is the most valuable. Depending on the degree of altruism and memory lapse, you might go out again with someone who failed to offer you the basics, such as personal hygiene.

This error can be one of the most serious, as you are partially aware and still decide to put yourself in a dangerous situation. If this happens, do not blame yourself for waking up in sheets that smell sour. Just resist the temptation to have a third encounter with the ogre.

error n°3: Failing to practice sisterhood.

You may have had one, two, or several unpleasant experiences in bed where you ponder how someone can lack any skill. You wonder how others dared to fall into the same trap as you and yet allowed the sexual killer to roam free, misusing their teeth or asking you to keep your eyes open during a kiss.

If this has ever happened to you, be aware that you need not continue with the unsuccessful date. However, show empathy towards the next victim and provide guidance to prevent the person from continuing to engage in the same actions. This is the true essence of sisterhood.

error n°4: Convincing yourself that beauty is not everything.

Discussing beauty requires caution. I want to clarify that defining beauty is highly personal and complex. However, if there is one thing I have learned throughout the years, it is that if you consider going out with someone whom you do not find physically attractive, rest assured that this person will convince you that you are the ugly one in the story.

You will suffer, you will question how you fell into this abyss, and in the end, you will understand the true meaning of charity.

error n°5: Believing that you will not make any more mistakes.

Every human interaction brings lessons. You will always learn from them, however horrible and traumatic they may be. Promising yourself never to repeat mistakes is only possible if you avoid new experiences. If that happens, you also exclude yourself from the stories worth living.

In the “spot the differences”, you must be meticulous and attentive. Life is almost the same. The only difference is that, in the game, you have the answer key, whereas in day-to-day life, you must allow yourself to learn.

A.M.